tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4084876361608306937.post462255070509957624..comments2024-02-26T19:17:44.872-08:00Comments on Living with PTSD and TBI: Words, Words, WordsUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4084876361608306937.post-4339359706205661342013-04-16T17:56:19.910-07:002013-04-16T17:56:19.910-07:00Thank you for these words. Every sentence you have...Thank you for these words. Every sentence you have written on this post is almost penned from my own mind. My husband and I have been married for almost 5 years, we struggle with this EVERY DAY. I try so hard to be the dutiful wife he needs, caregiving, appointments, med management....(the list goes on & on) It frustrates me to no end he can never HEAR me and always turns my attempt at communicating my frustrations into a full out battle. My words are never meant to be fighting words, no matter how I gently, kind or heart-felt I put it, they are to him. I believe that I am a trigger for him. Which is not a good feeling to have as a wife and caregiver. I wish I could say I today was the first time I have thought that he is giving up on our family. But this is definitely the most far gone he has been. Weeks with a dazed off look, constantly disassociating from life, avoiding responsibilities, yelling for no reason.. It is too much to bear. My heart goes out to all the families, struggling through these (and other) battles, due to combat injuries. It feels good to know that I am not alone. I googled "how to handle ptsd tbi blow up" & found your site. SO glad I did. I am so scared to think that he is willing to give up on all the treatment and progress we have made, together, as a family. We have all sacrificed, but as a mother and wife, I wonder how long I can continue this role in my own life. He used to protect and care for me, but I have to look out for my child and myself first. My #YO daughter was playing with her toys after my husband blew up & left tonight, she said "the mommy is sad because she misses the daddy" she also said "I wish I could say sorry" because his latest "incident" was over our toddler raising her voice to him. God bless the veterans. And their families. (sorry if this is incoherent, pretty distraught this evening) thanks for your blog, you are doing us wives a great service. <3Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4084876361608306937.post-79639286576108758872013-04-12T17:50:35.272-07:002013-04-12T17:50:35.272-07:00My husband and I have been on this rollercoaster s...My husband and I have been on this rollercoaster since about three months after he returned from Afghanistan. It is exhausting and not healthy for anyone, especially the kids. At this point I am left wondering at what point MUST I throw in the towel to save the kids and I. Dawna Watershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07341985533633252608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4084876361608306937.post-5178709474884203802013-03-25T15:10:01.457-07:002013-03-25T15:10:01.457-07:00For someone who is currently struggling with words...For someone who is currently struggling with words, you are incredibly articulate and well spoken. Indeed the effects of TBI and PTSD are long lasting, and the injuries left over seem to be the rope that holds both caregiver and victim together while simultaneously ripping them apart<br /><br />Might I suggest group therapy sessions for veterans for your husband? Perhaps venting his feelings with people who share a similar story will be therapeutic for both of you. Best of luck, we'll keep you in our prayersMikehttp://sandiego.esteybomberger.com/san-diego-brain-injury-attorney/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4084876361608306937.post-90644482567898820962013-03-22T18:42:13.463-07:002013-03-22T18:42:13.463-07:00My boyfriend/ex-fiance is an Iraqi War veteran, an...My boyfriend/ex-fiance is an Iraqi War veteran, and for much of the same reasons you just talked about, I broke off our engagement. I see so much potential in him, but he just doesn't want to help himself. Every little thing I say, he snaps at me. It hurts me that every day, one of us says or does something that puts the other one in a sour mood. Is it worth it?Bebehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11679543170922927731noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4084876361608306937.post-23909626411983865032013-03-14T14:27:33.837-07:002013-03-14T14:27:33.837-07:00I agree on the point that using words is not comm...I agree on the point that using words is not communicating. Talking at someone is not talking with someone. All the correct grammar will not count as communication as long as one party has filters up that keep the meaning obscure. Maybe you could ask to attend one of the counseling sessions and bring these points up for discussion. KrippledWarriorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09693973753642324616noreply@blogger.com