tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4084876361608306937.post6184129517056080503..comments2024-02-26T19:17:44.872-08:00Comments on Living with PTSD and TBI: Penny for your ThoughtsUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4084876361608306937.post-16179360682090193952013-07-27T11:30:03.225-07:002013-07-27T11:30:03.225-07:00I know this is old but I was curious to know how l...I know this is old but I was curious to know how long these blackouts lasted and if your husband reacted normally. Please!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07009189651952679864noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4084876361608306937.post-91058410293445858612013-07-27T09:20:34.215-07:002013-07-27T09:20:34.215-07:00I know this is old but I hope you respond. Can I a...I know this is old but I hope you respond. Can I ask you how long your husbands blackouts lasted? Please. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4084876361608306937.post-76272045974817651542010-07-11T07:02:07.550-07:002010-07-11T07:02:07.550-07:00Thank you ladies for reading my blog and the posit...Thank you ladies for reading my blog and the positive feedback! @Anonymous, thank you for sharing your story with us. Sounds like both of you have some pretty deep battle scars. Hopefully one day they will just disappear and we can get back to being ourselves again.Uncle Sam's Mistresshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01179663021921239430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4084876361608306937.post-29048861499185997162010-07-09T21:31:41.275-07:002010-07-09T21:31:41.275-07:00Wow. I've just found your amazing blog, and am...Wow. I've just found your amazing blog, and am nodding my head in recognition. so glad you are discussing the connection between PTSD and infidelity.<br />As a former wife of a Nam vet, I know too well the pain and self-degredation that accompanies these acts on the faithful spouse. Although my divorce was long ago, I still feel the effects of his numerous affairs on my heart. So sad. Thanks again for sharing this!!Charlene Rubushhttp://www.winoverptsd.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4084876361608306937.post-21889812209077609402010-07-09T19:33:50.198-07:002010-07-09T19:33:50.198-07:00Hi Uncle Sam's Mistress, I've been reading...Hi Uncle Sam's Mistress, I've been reading your amazing blog since I saw you over on D and B's blogs (we exhanged emails about the PTSD identity/soul disorder). Thank you for addressing infidelity. Very few do and it is ridicuously common on both sides of the coin (the spouse left behind sometimes strays during deployment and very commonly the warrior returns and strays as they are seeking the adrenaline of war).<br />My story touches both sides unfortunately. A little background: my husband was active duty for 7 years and to finish his 8th year enlisted in the national guard and ended up stop lossed for a 9th year. We were together for 6 years before combat, and married following 22 months in Afghanistan and Iraq. My husband's symptoms were pretty bad following separation: suicide attempts, nightmares/shouting in dreams, weapons all over the house, the usual stuff. The anger was volatile, I was the focus of all of his discontent (not pretty enough, fat, bad at my job, not a good homemaker, you name it). He got the diagnosis from the VA doc, went on ADs for a few days, didn't like them and flushed down the toilet. That was 5 years ago, no further treatment.<br /><br />Internet porn addiction got expensive, alcoholism took over. 2 years went by. We gave birth twice in one year. The verbal/psychological abuse was constant and some of this turned to minor physical stuff during my first pregnancy. While pregnant with my second, my husband had sex with a married army wife (she was like family to me) while her husband was deployed. She passed along an std to me that caused my child to be born very premmaturely and with complications.<br /><br />18 months went by before I figured it all out and during that time he was meaner and drunker than I have ever seen. We didn't live together during that time but have been over the past few months, attempting to reconcile. It's hard because I know the promiscuity is part of PTSD, very common, I struggle with it because I have no tolerance for it and the "old version" of my husband did not either.<br />Prior to finding out about his terrible secret, I endured the daily abuse with the peace that at least he was a faithful husband and the hope that he will someday choose to get help and come home to me. Now, I have little hope that he will find his way as nothing seems to move him to action.<br />I want you to know you are not alone and that I appreciate you bravely sharing this part of your story. Let me know if you ever want to talk and take care. You are a brave woman and take your time with the healing. I was made to feel like I should get over it quickly because of his PTSD, it has been a year and I am just now starting to feel a little normal again. No matter the cause, infidelity is devastating, pure and simple, marriage murder.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4084876361608306937.post-31442423305722535362010-07-09T14:41:43.376-07:002010-07-09T14:41:43.376-07:00Oh trust me! One smack and all you would see if as...Oh trust me! One smack and all you would see if ass and elbows out the door. I'm so sorry you had to endure that as a child. I know that domestic violence is not an often enough spoken about subject and there is a huge rise among the military and PTSD veterans. Of course the divorce rate is increasing on top of that number. I will have to remember that one "what would Oprah do?" heheheeUncle Sam's Mistresshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01179663021921239430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4084876361608306937.post-65131998108999361232010-07-09T10:32:32.049-07:002010-07-09T10:32:32.049-07:00Dear Mistress,
Please believe me when I say; "...Dear Mistress,<br />Please believe me when I say; "If your situation ever rises to the level of physical violence against yourself or your children. Please call the police."<br />Once that boundary is crossed, it only gets worse from there. I'm an old man now. But I still bear the physical and emotional scars that were inflicted on me by my father.<br /><br />Being yelled and shouted into submission are bad enough. But no child should suffer through the terror associated with being punched around by a drunk adult. Especially when the adult is the father.<br /><br />I'm still a bit gun shy around male authority figures who try to intimidate me. Mostly because I learned how to respond in a completely inappropriate manner, by using my First Strike options. I just count to infinity a couple of times, and try to recall pleasant thoughts, like "You'll get fired for choking that fool."<br />And "What would Oprah do?"<br /><br />Seriously though... Please don't let that happen to you.<br />Be well. Be Blessed. And be a blessing.<br />KurtKrippledWarriorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09693973753642324616noreply@blogger.com