tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4084876361608306937.post7985983121077936987..comments2024-02-26T19:17:44.872-08:00Comments on Living with PTSD and TBI: When Forgiveness Carries a DebtUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4084876361608306937.post-11202039916764983172012-06-27T17:07:53.243-07:002012-06-27T17:07:53.243-07:00I cried in my office today as I read this & th...I cried in my office today as I read this & thought to myself...this woman is the only person I've hear before that knows how I feel. Thank you for being so honest...My husband has recently told me he's going to divorce me because I'm basicly too much in his personal business. I love my husband and miss the man I married. He suffered a TBI his first of 3 deployments to Iraq & is currently in Afghanistan. I will fight for this man because I know this is not who he is....I'm just exhaused...and now I have to sit and wait and be non confrontational until he is home safely. You're blog ment a lot to me...thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4084876361608306937.post-44457615710602345422012-06-18T00:08:50.867-07:002012-06-18T00:08:50.867-07:00Amen!! Sometimes the hardest thing to hear from th...Amen!! Sometimes the hardest thing to hear from them is, "I never said that." Especially after such things said that cause pain for days at a time. I can't believe I am reading exactly what I live daily. I have kept all of this in because the first time I told someone they told me it was just an excuse for bad behavior. My family has no clue to what goes on, as we don't visit much nor dare I tell my mom how much I cry because of his anger towards me for no reason. Thank you for your honesty in your post!!! I have been racing out in desperate attempt to understand and relate for a while now. Makes me sad and happy at the same time, for all of us, to have someone that understands. Ty!Nevergiveup.https://www.blogger.com/profile/09611798936825073591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4084876361608306937.post-15196097796285875272012-06-14T11:33:41.533-07:002012-06-14T11:33:41.533-07:00I don't know if my earlier comment went throug...I don't know if my earlier comment went through (first time posting here but long time lurker) but I am looking for an email/chat buddy to get over my recent breakup with someone suffering from PTSD/TBIs. I can relate to everything you have said here and it really hits close to home. It hurts when you love someone but they just don't treat you that way back.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4084876361608306937.post-8956934065920224312012-06-14T11:30:26.868-07:002012-06-14T11:30:26.868-07:00I have been a lurker for a while. My relationship ...I have been a lurker for a while. My relationship with someone suffering from PTSD/TBIs has just recently ended and I am here looking for some support. I can relate to everything you have said here as I have gone through the same emotions. It's a hard life when you are never good enough and the person you are supposed to depend on the most can hardly ever support you. I am looking for an email/chat buddy if anyone is interested, especially for someone that has come out of a relationship like this. It hurts that he walked out on me and I feel like he is just having another spell (like always) but he is off dating other women and that is something that I just can't accept. I know it is best to move on but it is hard when you have put so much effort and love into someone and they leave you with nothing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4084876361608306937.post-19164397665782174052012-06-11T16:06:24.981-07:002012-06-11T16:06:24.981-07:00When one of your sons acts up, do you let him or d...When one of your sons acts up, do you let him or do you tell him that that is not the right way to act? If and when one of your children has yelled back at you or thrown a tantrum for getting their way, you calmly tell them that they are wrong.<br />Maybe, since your husband is acting so like a child, he needs to be told the same thing.<br />I'm not saying he's going to like it, but look at yourself in a few years. What do you see? Because the way things are going, he isn't getting better. He (and therefore your whole household) will be the same, if not worse.<br />He may not become who you married again, but you are probably not the same either. You have sacrificed a ton, as has he. However, he needs to see that this isn't okay. PTSD is not an excuse for him to treat you like a worthless robot, no matter what he thinks or feels. I know it is indescribably hard for both of you, but you're already doing More than your part.<br />And hidden parts of him are there. They are smothered by hate and memories that will not go away. But he's there. He just needs to bring it out. You have already set the stage, I think you should tell him that it's time for him to grow.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4084876361608306937.post-73148058844781421422012-06-06T20:29:42.175-07:002012-06-06T20:29:42.175-07:00Thank you for this incredibly honest post.
My husb...Thank you for this incredibly honest post.<br />My husband got back from Iraq which was a year long deployment just right after 7 months in Afghanistan in March 2005. Within a week I had the thought that this guy the Army sent me truly wasn't the guy who left.<br />A year went by and his addictions were piling up.<br />alcoholism<br />frivolous spending<br />adrenaline junky<br />a mean streak a mile long<br />abusive language<br />abusive behavior<br />anger anger anger<br />then the infidelity (that's when I experienced trauma and developed PTSD)<br />then the rock bottom<br />then the separation<br />and second rock bottom<br /><br />Now, 7 years later, 3 kids later, we are making it day by day. He's still mean, ungrateful and hateful toward me but I finally understand he is sick and can't control it.<br /><br />It's so hard and I never would have chosen this life, but we manage and I focus on the kids so they have as many healthy experiences as possible.<br />I feel your pain and I am so sorry.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4084876361608306937.post-15754854460297579372012-05-30T12:40:25.812-07:002012-05-30T12:40:25.812-07:00I "hear" and "feel" everything...I "hear" and "feel" everything you have said! My situation is a little different. My husband was in Germany when he had his TBI, I was in the States. It has been a horrible year and a half! I've been blamed for everything under the sun and then am told that he never said it! Very tough times. I am determined, I will stay, I will not quit, I will not walk away!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4084876361608306937.post-87192026893250660522012-05-28T06:18:53.155-07:002012-05-28T06:18:53.155-07:00i m so sorry for your battles....my son who is 34 ...i m so sorry for your battles....my son who is 34 has a tbi from a wreck...it s horrible how they can act but their executive function of their brains have been damaged....they can t help it....keep reminding yourself that....can you get some respite hours ,get away,take care of yourself a little.....hang toughtonihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18107232129112318687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4084876361608306937.post-26433284101292835642012-05-23T18:58:14.574-07:002012-05-23T18:58:14.574-07:00wow. I truly feel that we live the same life! I ca...wow. I truly feel that we live the same life! I can't tell you how many times I have thought so many of the things you said. I'm proud of you for being honest, and standing by your man. it definitely isn't something everyone could do if put in your place. you are an awesome person. it's okay to cry, to get it out...and to be angry. anyone in their right mind can see how hard it is. xoxoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4084876361608306937.post-24413288412264689052012-05-21T20:46:30.333-07:002012-05-21T20:46:30.333-07:00You say all the things I have lost the ability to ...You say all the things I have lost the ability to express. You are not alone.Casualties@homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00590405585320778447noreply@blogger.com